Have you ever considered that your best intentions as a leader can lead to self-deception and undermine your effectiveness? Kevin speaks with Victoria Trammell about how self-deception ties to our identity as leaders. Self-deception leads to what an inward mindset—an excessive and unhealthy self-focus that leads us to see ourselves and others in altered ways. She explains how leaders can act in ways that contradict their stated values, denying their team members growth and opportunity. Victoria believes, as leaders, we need to stay curious and see our team as individuals with different needs and goals.

Listen For

00:00 Introduction
03:27 The Uniqueness of Leadership Books
05:32 What Makes "Leadership and Self-Deception" Successful
07:12 The Core Idea: Self-Deception
09:09 Examples of Self-Deception in Leadership
11:01 Connection Between Self-Deception and Identity
13:13 The Role of Leadership Assessments and Identity
15:15 The Relationship to Relationships in Leadership
17:17 Practical Steps to Recognize and Address Self-Deception
19:57 Feedback and Vulnerability in Leadership
21:00 The Ripple Effect of Leadership
22:45 Advice for Leaders: Start with Curiosity
24:33 How to Influence as a Leader
26:15 What Victoria Does for Fun
27:13 What Victoria Is Reading Now
28:24 Closing Thoughts and Resources

Meet Victoria

Victoria's Story: Victoria Trammel is a co-author of Leadership and Self-Deception: the Secret to Transforming Relationships and Unleashing Results, now in its 4th edition. She is a seasoned facilitator and leadership consultant who brings almost two decades of experience supporting the Intelligence Community to her work with Arbinger. She began her career in joint counterterrorism operations. In subsequent positions, Victoria continued to embrace opportunities for learning and people development through leadership roles across the Intelligence Community from small niche operational programs to enterprise-wide software development programs to corporate culture initiatives. Most recently as a program manager of 65 employees at Leidos, Victoria had the opportunity to establish and develop her program leadership team under the guidance and coaching of the Arbinger Institute. Victoria has a beautiful, blended family of 6 that enjoys planning vacations around experiencing different cultures through the power of food. She is fluent in French and speaks a couple other languages, though most of her vocabulary revolves around eating.

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Book Recommendations

Leadership and Self-Deception, Fourth Edition: The Secret to Transforming Relationships and Unleashing Results by The Arbinger Institute
Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans by Michaeleen Doucleff

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