AEE 2446: Why You Shouldn’t Be a One-upper

In this episode of the All Ears English podcast, Michelle and Aubrey discuss the concept of "one-upping" in conversations and why it can damage connections. They define a one-upper as someone who tries to outdo others by sharing better stories or achievements, often subtly shifting attention back to themselves. The hosts explore common phrases used by one-uppers, such as "I can top that" or "You ain't seen nothing yet," and delve into three main ways people one-up each other: comparing experiences, subtle bragging, and status boosting. They emphasize that while sharing common experiences is important for connection, one-upping undermines the other person's experience and makes them feel unheard. Michelle and Aubrey provide tips on how to avoid one-upping by asking follow-up questions, showing genuine interest, and giving the other person time and space to share before pivoting to oneself, illustrating these points with role-play scenarios.