69. After Betrayal: Moral and Ethical Decisions Beyond the Lies and Deception

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal Podcast, Marnie and Ilyse delve into the complex topic of when a betrayer should consider leaving a relationship after infidelity. They acknowledge the initial need for betrayers to fully commit to the healing process and honor the betrayed partner's boundaries. However, they also explore situations where, despite genuine effort from the betrayer, healing stagnates or the betrayed partner remains unable to move forward, sometimes even becoming abusive. Marnie and Ilyse emphasize the moral responsibility of the betrayer to be honest about their capacity to meet their partner's needs and the importance of self-awareness in making ethical decisions that prioritize the well-being of both individuals, even if it means ending the relationship. They highlight that healing can occur even if the couple separates, especially when children are involved, and stress the importance of honesty and self-care throughout the difficult process.